Saas, or the mother-in-law, may have different standards for her daughter-in-law, or Bahu, by her cultural, personal, and familial principles.

Present-day society dictates that the mother must select the bride for her son when, in fact, this should be the mutual prerogative of the fiancé and bridegroom. This is the common practice whereby parents in Pakistan select their children’s life partners.

It’s not bad if a Saas looks for qualities in your Bahu. However, Some things a future mother-in-law wants for her future daughter-in-law are very stupid. This is one reason why marriages happen later than planned.

It can obviously be difficult to adjust to a new family and surroundings. A Saas’s perspective cannot always match with the Bahu. A bahu is considered adaptable and receptive to new ideas when she is willing to learn and conform to her Saas’s practices while also freely and politely expressing her preferences.

As marriage is a life-changing event, everything you see and feel is different. So, every mother is a little attentive, which I feel is not a bad thing.

But Saas must act politely and patiently as Bahu is a new member of her house. She takes time to learn all those things. Gradually, she begans to adjust in her new home.

Saas expects humbleness from her Bahu; she seeks a competent Bahu who can effectively control her emotions and communicate openly and candidly, which is crucial for preserving a healthy relationship.

A good communication facilitates positive disagreement solutions and promotes mutual understanding. Individually and collectively, a bahu is regarded as loyal and supportive when she assists her spouse and Saas. This exemplifies her dedication to the welfare and joy of the family.

As Saas look for qualities in their Bahu, Bahu also expects some qualities in their Saas. Every mother should respect that, too. Both are two different individuals and have their own perspectives.

What is the essence of a relationship? What is the right amount of balancing the act between the good and bad traits we all have? All these things contributes towards a healthy relationship.

Getting along well with our mother-in-law from the start can help you both build a strong relationship. It also lets your family accept you as their own and treat you the same way.

Understanding each other properly and supporting each other is the true essence of a relationship.

A happy home is good for your health and happiness. So work hard to get it. Set limits and stay away from anything or anyone that makes your life more difficult. Work on yourself and move on.

Respect goes both ways!